S5 Episode 5 – I Delivered But I Lost It

Special Guest Dr. Bisa Batten Lewis

Dr. Bisa talks about her struggle with anxiety and the freedom she experienced when Michelle Williams of Destiny’s Child committed to walking in her truth regarding mental health and sought help for her dis-ease.

I decided to pull this title out of the dialogue between Dr. Bisa and I when she was discussing her anxiety and how she was able to deliver the product or perform under pressure, she was able to do it but she lost it in the process. Her body was experiencing an overload of more than just butterflies. She was in a state of utter panic, her voice elevated and she felt discomfort in her entire body. After describing everything she experienced as a result of her anxiety, she simply stated “I Delivered But I Lost It” Listen to the entire podcast here.

How many times have you been able to make it through something but you know that you definitely lost it in the process? Or you tried to pretend that everything was alright when inside there was a volcano about to erupt in any second. Whether you experience anxiety, depression, low self esteem, self hatred, obsessive compulsive disorder, loneliness, anger, extreme fatigue, fear, prolonged grief, indecisiveness…IT DOESN’T MATTER. They are all dis-eases because they disrupt your healthy mind, body and spirit. Understand that the ultimate battles begins in your mind.

You may think you know what your mind is doing and how it’s influencing the rest of you to either connect or disconnect from life’s events; but the reality is it’s playing tricks on you daily. It’s influenced by your fears, your doubts, your inhibitions, words not spoken, opportunities missed, heart breaks, discontent, self loathing, realistic non reality, discomfort, irritation, uncertainty and the need to be needed by someone or something relevant enough to change your mind. Did you get all that? The moment you allow your mind to occupy a space in time that doesn’t serve you, consider yourself bit by the bug of trickery. Allow the truth to show up where a lie as lived. You will feel so much more free.

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The Show, Defined

This show was born out of years of being a black woman with superpowers. Unlike Wonder Woman, who was granted her powers by Greek Gods. Honey, mine came from the school of hard ass knocks. The gods of pain and adversity, trial and error, sabotage and suffering granted me with these powers. As far back as I can remember I have always been able to take a lickin and keep on tickin. Resilience is in my DNA.

Having superpowers is not always a good thing though. It caused a series of health issues for me. I tried feverishly to hold my house together (raising 2 kids), complete graduate school, care for my brother who was in a vegetative state, manage my mother’s health, run 5 businesses (1 of which is a practicing life coach) and not pass the hell out in the process. It was/is rough!

Everybody would always comment about how strong I was, how I could handle so much as if it was a badge of honor. I remember teaching a workshop one time in the midst of my life’s turmoil. I equated the “S” on the chest not to that of Superwoman but to STRESS and let me tell you something right up in through here if you don’t know….STRESS KILLS. I feel what Alicia Keys was trying to do with Superwoman “trying to convince herself that she was strong” but Honeeeeey, that is EXHAUSTING.

As a solvent to my inadvertent ability to be all and know all and do all, I started a podcast that was a cry out to The Universe that Even Superwoman Needs Therapy. Me, I need it too. I mean after all, who encourages the encourager? Who motivates the motivator? It is my way of telling my stories so that other superwomen out there won’t have to suffer the pain I endured. It is also and outlet so that women can find healing in hearing stories of triumph not just after I’ve gone through it but be able to be with me while I’m going through it and figuring it out. It’s a now learning that I live and operate in.

I like to think that I’m changing lives, one listener at a time. I don’t hold back what needs to be said in the way I feel it needs to be said…after all it’s MY VOICE.

THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT THE SHOW: I always have a drink. It doesn’t matter if its wine or whiskey but it is present. Only guests that have been through some thangs can speak into this here platformanal microphone (I made that up…I do that ALOT).

S4 – Episode 4 – In Your Truth Part 2 (Ex Husband #1 Chat)

Summary

Continuing the conversation with ex husband #1. We talk about life, sexuality, denial, betrayal and how our life’s events led us to walk in our truth.

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S4 – Episode 3 – In Your Truth (Ex Husband #1 Chat)

Summary

Chatting with ex husband #1. We talk about life, sexuality, denial, betrayal and how our life’s events led us to walk in our truth.

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It just doesn’t get any more real than this. My first husband was my middle school sweetheart. We married when we were just 20 years old, nobody gave us the blueprint for marriage or any tips on how to make it work. We simply had to figure it out but there were twists and turns along the way that resulted in our demise. The after thoughts now are “Where we ever destined to succeed or was it an unconscious walk in an unknown truth?”

S4 – Episode 2 – TEDx Talks by Black Women

Summary

TEDx talks are designed to take a life experience and present it in a short 15 minute story like message that ignites a conversation that will incite change. We listen in on these TEDx talks by black women with the hope that it will start conversation and progressive healing.

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S4 – Episode 1 – Speeches by Powerful Black Women

Summary

Take this journey honey. Maybe you remember a few of these speeches, maybe you’ve never heard others, either way they are so goooooood you can listen to them over and over again. Be Empowered to be GREAT!

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S3 – Episode 14 – Heart to Heart

Summary

Taking a bit of time to encourage you to continue to live in your NOW moment. Keep letting go and allowing all emotions to be fully present so you can master your humanity.

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S3 – Episode 13 – Therapy for the Theatre

Summary

Chatting with friend end fellow thespian Ebony Marshall Oliver about Mental Health in the Performing Arts. We talk about overcoming anxiety, fear, rejection and the dis-ease of comparisonitis.

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S3 – Episode 12 – Non Applicable

Summary

When filling out the application of life, if it doesn’t add to the quality of your life it should be checked as non-applicable. This includes attitudes, people, instances, events…all dat! If it is not building you up or progressing you forward it should be deemed n/a. It’s a very simple thing. Resist the temptation of wasting your time on things and people that do not apply to you, that don’t stretch you.

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S3 – Episode 11 – What’s Your Dream?

Summary

Somewhere in our adulthood we lose the kid in us that used to dream and imagine and ultimately believe that anything can happen. When is the last time you thought about what makes you feel free?

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